Connection

Connection

Connection is a fulfilling sense of closeness and mutual acknowledgment or appreciation with others.

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While connection is often thought of as a feeling toward other people, we can also feel connected to things, such as nature, or ideas, like religion.

A lack of connection is associated with higher risks of negative mental conditions (e.g., depression, insomnia) and physical ailments (e.g., obesity, heart disease, and reduced lifespan.)

Matthew Lieberman emphasizes that humans are hard-wired for social interaction because cooperation and collaboration have been essential for survival. Our brains have evolved to experience social pain and pleasure to guide behavior, anticipate and understand others' feelings, and adopt complex systems of values and beliefs that bond us to social groups. His research also suggests that many of our choices are shaped by how we anticipate others will respond to them. In one experiment described in Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect, participants watched TV show pilots while undergoing fMRI scans. Neural activity in regions associated with social thinking and understanding others strongly predicted which shows would succeed. This finding highlights how our social processing abilities unconsciously assess and anticipate what will resonate with broader audiences.

The research of Gillian M. Sandstrom and Elizabeth W. Dunn suggests that brief interactions with "weak ties"—acquaintances or strangers in our environment—can enhance our mood and promote a sense of belonging. Their studies show that increasing daily interactions with weak ties leads to noticeable improvements in well-being. The episode highlights that even small social exchanges, such as chatting quickly with the person at your local grocery store, or greeting a neighbor, play a meaningful role in boosting happiness and fostering social connectedness.

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Sources and other readings

The Secret to Feeling Good: Connection

L. Becker-Phelps

The Secret to Feeling Good: Connection

L. Becker-Phelps

The Importance of Connection

K. Stiles & L. Lawrenz

The Importance of Connection

K. Stiles & L. Lawrenz

The Social Brain and The Workplace

M. Lieberman

The Social Brain and The Workplace

M. Lieberman

Happiness and Well-Being: It’s All About Connecting

L. Becker-Phelps

Happiness and Well-Being: It’s All About Connecting

L. Becker-Phelps

Social Isolation and Mortality in US Black and White Me...

K. l. Alcaraz

Social Isolation and Mortality in US Black and White Me...

K. l. Alcaraz

Social relationships and physiological determinants of...

Y. C. Yang

Social relationships and physiological determinants of...

Y. C. Yang

Relationships 2.0: The Power of Tiny Interactions

Hidden Brain

Relationships 2.0: The Power of Tiny Interactions

Hidden Brain

Atlas of the heart

B. Brown

Atlas of the heart

B. Brown

Loneliness and connection

B. Brown & V. Murthy

Loneliness and connection

B. Brown & V. Murthy

How to get rid of loneliness and become happy

O. Remes

How to get rid of loneliness and become happy

O. Remes

Quotes

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

B. Brown

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

B. Brown

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.

B. Brown

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.

B. Brown

... humans are wired with another set of interests that are just as basic as physical pain and pleasure. We are wired to be social. We are driven by deep motivations to stay connected with friends and family.We are naturally curious about what is going on in the minds of other people. And our identities are formed by the values lent to us from the groups we call our own.

M. Lieberman

... humans are wired with another set of interests that are just as basic as physical pain and pleasure. We are wired to be social. We are driven by deep motivations to stay connected with friends and family.We are naturally curious about what is going on in the minds of other people. And our identities are formed by the values lent to us from the groups we call our own.

M. Lieberman

In many situations, the more you turn on the brain network for nonsocial reasoning, the more you turn off the brain network for social reasoning. This antagonism between social and nonsocial thinking is really important because the more someone is focused on a problem, the more that person might be likely to alienate others around him or her who could help solve the problem. Effective nonsocial problem solving may interfere with the neural circuitry that promotes effective thinking about the group’s needs.

M. Lieberman

In many situations, the more you turn on the brain network for nonsocial reasoning, the more you turn off the brain network for social reasoning. This antagonism between social and nonsocial thinking is really important because the more someone is focused on a problem, the more that person might be likely to alienate others around him or her who could help solve the problem. Effective nonsocial problem solving may interfere with the neural circuitry that promotes effective thinking about the group’s needs.

M. Lieberman

Long before there were any primates with a neocortex, mammals split off from other vertebrates and evolved the capacity to feel social pains and pleasures, forever linking our well-being to our social connectedness. Infants embody this deep need to stay connected, but it is present through our entire lives.

M. Lieberman

Long before there were any primates with a neocortex, mammals split off from other vertebrates and evolved the capacity to feel social pains and pleasures, forever linking our well-being to our social connectedness. Infants embody this deep need to stay connected, but it is present through our entire lives.

M. Lieberman