Avoidance

Avoidance

Avoidance is the practice of keeping away from something; a person, environment, or activity, or an anxiety-inducing thought.

More about this emotion

It's one of the ways people deal with anxiety by deciding not to think about what's causing the negative feelings in the first place.

Dr. Matthew McKay identifies five types of avoidance behaviors: avoiding people, places, or things that trigger us (situational avoidance); avoiding distressing thoughts or memories (cognitive avoidance); engaging in activities that make us safe, like compulsive cleaning (protective avoidance); avoiding situations we know cause a physical experience we fear (somatic avoidance); and substituting one feeling with another (e.g., feeling agree when deep down we're sad or grieving.)

Avoidance is a passive coping strategy. It differs from active ones that aim to reduce or eliminate the stressor, like: solving the problem at hand (e.g., analysis, communication); dealing with the emotions it triggers (e.g., meditation, mindfulness); or reframing the situation (e.g., growth mindset, humor.)

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Sources and other readings

What Are the 5 Types of Avoidance Behavior?

H. l. Lebow & L. Lawrenz

What Are the 5 Types of Avoidance Behavior?

H. l. Lebow & L. Lawrenz

Atlas of the heart

B. Brown

Atlas of the heart

B. Brown

Fear and other uninvited guests

H. Lerner

Fear and other uninvited guests

H. Lerner

5 types of avoidance

H. I. Lebow

5 types of avoidance

H. I. Lebow

The choice that undermines

M. Steinborn

The choice that undermines

M. Steinborn

Quotes

Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.

R. D. Laing

Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.

R. D. Laing

It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable, so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.

H. Lerner

It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable, so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.

H. Lerner